Alyssa Counseling

Tips to Help Couples Build a More Solid Relationship

by | Nov 22, 2021

The ability to stay calm during a fight with your spouse is essential for effective communcation. However, many couples struggle in their communcation because they are flooded by their own powerful emotions and cannot stay calm. It is time to solve this problem.

Hi, my name is Alyssa Caldwell. I’m with the Cedar Rapids Counseling Center. Today I’m going to talk about a couple of tips or tricks to help couples that you can implement today to help grow better and more solid relationships going forward. The first tip or trick involves trust and accountability, and an easy way to do that is, to be honest, as simple as that is. But there’s more to that. You have to voluntarily give information to your partner instead of feeling like it’s mandatory. Voluntary means just going wherever you might be going. If you’re going to be a little late from work, if you’re going to go do this or that afterward, you tell your partner. It’s just keeping them in the loop, so that way they know where you are, A, in case something happens for safety, and then B, it helps them to feel more secure that you are where you say you’re going to be. And essentially, anything you say should match what you do.

The next tip or trick that I have for you involves communication between you and your spouse or partner. And you can also use this really with anyone that you’re interacting with. It just involves the way that you talk, some of the verbiage that you use. Instead of saying, you do this, or I think you are this, change that around to talk from your point of view only because that’s all you do know. You want to say to them, you know, it seems to me like, or it feels to me like you might be this or that, and then it gives your partner or that friend that chance to clarify for you what they may have actually meant. Keeping that in mind should help you to maintain and grow better relationships with your partner or spouse and your friends.

The third and kind of final tip and trick I have for you today involves fun and friendship. A lot of marriages right now are finding they are not having enough fun and friendship in their lives. And so they’re tending to divorce a lot more once their kids are older or once their kids are out of the house. The fun and friendship just means going out on dates, going on certain vacations together, or making time for each other, sitting on the couch next to each other, watching a show chit chatting and doing new things that either one of them has tried before, or neither of them has tried before. Doing those kinds of activities together will keep that fun, alive, and that friendship alive because to be in a relationship and be in a marriage, you have to be friends. You’re more than friends, but you have to be friends. You have to like each other. So, it’s important to keep that in mind.

I hope today that these tips or tricks helped you. Though, if you still feel like you need some help and guidance, please give us a call and or visit our website and we can try and get you scheduled as soon as possible. I’m personally accepting clients, so I’d be more than happy to help meet you and help formulate a good plan to help you on your path to your growth and healing.

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